7531 Templeton Road in Pensacola, Florida
April 5, 2016 --
"The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them." ~ Hemingway
This past September the house that had been in our family for forty-six years was sold.
It was the first house that my parents’ owned. The pride my father had for this house was frustrating as a child, but inspirational as an adult. It was fitting that he took his last breaths and passed peacefully from this life with the woman he loved here.
It is usually here that one continues to write about memories. All of that is overshadowed by absolutely unnecessary drama.
The house should have stayed in the family, but that was never possible. Signing the papers and letting it go became easier because of the turmoil of emotion that symbolized its very existence.
The true relationship between siblings becomes painfully obvious when it comes down to money. The house should have never have been about money, and should have been a symbol of unity, family, and unconditional love. These are all characteristics that do not and never exist between the siblings.
The house became a symbol of insecurity, the need to be in control, over-the-top self-indulgent drama, deceit, greed, pretentiousness, and flat out lying. The details of this story are undeniably sad and embarrassing for a family. The unnecessary emotional damage has become permanent. While there may be forgiveness, it will never relinquish the personal accountability.
In the end, I am grateful for a process that reconciled my observations and insights over a lifetime. I also know the disappointment that my parents have in us.
While I could not make it better, I wake up every morning with a clear heart.
I believe in Karma. Money cannot buy the Karma, peace and happiness that you think you deserve.
Bruce cooperrosemarie cooper7531 Templeton RoadPensacolaFloridaHomestead